How to Bounce Back After Cheating On Your Diet

It has happened to all of us at some point. We have all been there when our diet is going great, we are eating healthy, losing weight gradually and suddenly we start craving something and eat what we really shouldn’t have.

In my case, I give up too soon and end up having whatever I was craving. The worst part comes afterward when you are done eating your much-loved pleasure food. It is when your brain starts thinking sensibly again and you start feeling super guilty and stressed about the food you shouldn’t have consumed. Most people cannot handle this part and end up thinking of themselves as a failure, which leads them to give up on the healthy lifestyle completely.

I have always been a chubby girl, with hypothyroid and a super-slow metabolism, I never stopped gaining weight. My weight increased with time while I kept trying different diets, exercises and what not. Recently, I have recognized a major problem in my lifestyle and I am trying to change that with more positivity. In the past, whenever I ate something bad while on a diet, I got so depressed thinking of myself as a failure with no willpower who can never do anything right. This type of thinking is so distressing because as soon as I cheated on my diet, I used to convince myself that I am unable to lose weight and went back to eating fast-food and unhealthy stuff. This yo-yo diet pattern resulted in me getting heavier than before.

I know how it feels when you are going great and this thing happens, but you have to forgive yourself and move forward. Here are a few tips to successfully get back on track after cheating on your diet.

The Day After

Most people eat very less or starve themselves the next day to balance the number of calories they had when they cheated on their diet. This approach is so wrong as starving yourself will slow down your metabolism and hinder your weight loss goals. Do not starve yourself as a punishment, you are only a human and it is ok to indulge in your favorite foods sometimes, you just need to know the right way to get back on track. Plan your day after meals and include foods with high protein, fiber, and vegetables.

The Cheat Day

As a foodie, I realized that I can never completely cut off my favorite foods from my life so I had to add a cheat day in my week. It gives me a phycological break from the restrictive food routine but it also motivates me more for the next day when I have to go back to my diet again. Most people assume that they can have anything and everything on a cheat day which is wrong! You have to remain in your senses even on a cheat day. for example, if you are craving pizza for lunch then go get a pizza on your cheat day, enjoy your pizza. However, eat something healthy like a salad or fruit for dinner, do not go overboard with the cheat day.

Double the Water Intake

Water helps to flush the toxins out of our body. After you are done binging on your favorite food and cheating on your diet, you need to get a hold of yourself and drink plenty of water. I suggest doubling the water intake on the next day to help your body flush out the toxins and keep you hydrated and full.

Don’t Be a Quitter

There is nothing you can do now after eating something that you shouldn’t have. The only and the best thing to do now is to forgive yourself and move on. Turn this mistake into a motivation for tomorrow and don’t lose hope. You are trying to change deep-rooted old habits which can not be done in a day. What you did is normal and almost all weight watchers are guilty of cheating once in a while. Take your time, be persistent and never think of quitting your diet.

There is one thing I have noticed about the cravings that they are strong but they are also temporary. If you patiently wait them out, you can get over the craving phase and stop thinking about that unhealthy food you were craving just a while before. I suggest waiting at least half an hour before you give up and eat, and drinking water to suppress that craving. However, it is totally fine if you end up binging on a cake or something you love to eat, always bounce back and take motivation from your mistake. Quitting is the worst thing you can do to your body so don’t give up and maintain a healthy life-style because you know you can do it!

 

 

BEFORE I DIE

Ten things to do before you are thirty!!

45 things you need to do before you die…

I am sure every one of us is aware of such bucket lists. The to-do list is something everyone has created in their lives to achieve some sort of goal; such as ‘Must lose 10 kg before Christmas’ or ‘Save money to visit Europe this year’ etc. Sometimes setting goals like this work wonders for people as it helps them to stay focused and keeps them motivated. What I am talking about here today is the type of adventurous and bankrupting bucket list ideas we follow that are written for us by some random person we don’t even know.hhh

This random collection of activities looks very promising and eye-catching. The ideas suggested promise to give you the eventual contentment but the writers fail to realize that every individual has a different idea of pleasure and happiness. Social media is an amazing platform for everyone, it has numerous benefits but what happened with time is that young people forgot how to enjoy the moment they are living right now. We go to places, keep taking selfies and don’t live that moment fully. I take a lot of selfies myself but if I am at a place I wanted to see, I would want to enjoy and live that very moment and of course take pictures later.

We all have some things that we want to do out of our comfort zones but we are not passionate about them. I have read so many bucket list ideas on the internet that I sometimes that I feel I didn’t accomplish anything in life according to them. I didn’t go skydiving, mountain climbing, bungee jumping and gliding before my 25th birthday as they suggested. This is sometimes difficult and unrealistic for people living in different living conditions across the world.

If you must make a bucket list you should make a list of things that actually make you happy. Make your own and a personalized list of things or activities you like. For example, if you are claustrophobic and a travel bucket-list suggests visiting a salt mine in Poland that reaches a depth of 300 meters, will it make you happy? It might be a great adventure and a fun thing to do for your friends but because of your condition, the idea of going so deep down scares you and you are unable to enjoy the experience with them. So, our to-do lists should consist of the things we are passionate about, things that are not too bizarre or extravagant, places we always wanted to visit and cuisines we always wanted to try!! Follow your inner voice if you are in search of true happiness because no one knows us better than ourselves.

Why I do not have a bucket list? It is simply because when we follow these lists, we take our idea of happiness from others such as media, friends and our social circle. These adventures might bring happiness to some people but they won’t give the same amount of happiness to others with different mindsets, likes, and dislikes. The idea of joy and success should be formed individually by us keeping our passion in mind. Always plan to do what you know brings you the pleasure, not something that will look cool on your Instagram. For example; Travel, food, and shopping give me the ultimate joy. Travel is my passion but I get more excited with the idea of exploring new cultures and cuisines than going for gliding or bungee jumping from a mountain. Be excited about future, what life is going to throw your way. Experience and enjoy the current moment, don’t dwell on past and live life how you want to live it.

Stay Blessed

Asra

 

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MINIMIZE THE RISKS OF CHILD ABUSE WITH BETTER PARENTING

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Currently, everyone’s social media news feed is flooded with hashtag #Metoo posts . People and especially women from all over the world shared their experiences of harassment under this hashtag. It is not easy to talk about the nightmares you have gone through; you always fear being judged even if you were powerless at the time of that incident. It gave people an idea of the enormity of this issue even though there are numerous people who kept silent.

#Metoo dragged me into the deep sea of emotions and anger, reminding me of everything that I have ever read, felt and heard about harassment. All the sexual assault stories I heard from my friends, all the catcalls, whistles and forbidden touches I experienced growing up as a girl flashed before my eyes once again. It was nice to see that so many people who kept their secrets bottled up because of different fears opened up now on social media informing about their experiences. The powerlessness they once felt during their incident of harassment is finally disappeared because of the power social media gave them to stop hiding and tell their story. The magnitude of “#Metoo” stories is eye opening and it is disgusting to see that this happens way too often than we think; they just do not get reported often. Women and men both can be a victim of harassment but I strongly want to talk about children who are the most vulnerable victims.

Harassment according to me can be anything happened to you without your consent. It can be an un-invited touch on the bus, a catcall on the street, a dirty text from your co-worker or a full-fledged sexual assault. It happens everywhere in the world but in Pakistan people usually ignore it.Growing up, many girls in my friend circle shared their experiences of being molested as a child by a teacher, neighbor, relatives etc but none of them informed their family. It’s like we feel safer to share our pain with friends but very few report it to their parents who can actually do something about it. So what is wrong with our parenting? I m a single woman but I have it crystal clear in my mind that whenever I will have kids, I will make sure to inform them about their bodies as soon as possible and build a strong friendship bond with them. Pakistani Parents need to take a few things into consideration to prevent any future problems in this regard. Here are a few things parents need to do Asap before it’s too late.

TALK TO KIDS AS EARLY AS POSSIBLE:

Sexual harassment is something a number of kids face in their lives, mostly during the ages of seven to thirteen. However, it can happen to anyone; by anyone in any age. Educating children is very important in this regard. Teach your children that certain parts of their bodies are private and no one should touch them. Many parents educate and train their children but there are a huge number of people in Pakistan who do not want to discuss this thinking that the kids are too young for this or that they are safe just because they don’t go out alone. Trust me, there are so many situations where a child can feel unsafe even at your house, so educating kids will be the best decision you will make. You need to develop trust and bond with your kids letting them know the dangers they can face in this regard. No one is asking you to give them too much information but at least they should be able to differentiate between right and wrong and to be able to inform you if they ever feel unsafe with anyone without fear.

TRUST IS THE KEY:

Developing trust is so important; most of the time children never report abuse or molestation to their elders because they think that they will also be considered guilty or get in trouble. They might think that parents won’t believe them just because this situation sounds too bizarre to them. Resolve this with love and trust. Tell your child that you love them no matter what and they can share anything without fear with you. A friendly bond will allow kids to share things with you without any fear.

MAKE “NO SECRETS” RULE:

A molester might use sweet words, bribes, loving gestures or even threat to keep their evil deeds a secret. Sexual harassment is committed by someone who is more powerful than us. It can be anyone a school bus driver, a teacher, an uncle, a stranger they met in the park. The molester can ask children to remain silent about the incident which works every time because kids get easily scared. Parents should educate kids about secret touch. Inform them that if a person touches them improperly and asks them to keep it a secret, they should immediately inform their parents. Assure them that they won’t be in trouble for anything. Build trust with love and communication.

DO NOT TRUST EVERYONE:

Sometimes relatives and family friends can be as dangerous as any stranger on the street, inform your kids not to let anyone touch them in an indecent manner. There should be some boundaries made clear in the child’s mind. For example; hugs or a kiss on the cheek from relatives like uncle/aunt, grandparents are ok but any touch apart from that should be reported to parents. What you can do is to try not leaving your kids even with the people you trust a lot because most of the reported sexual assault worldwide is usually done by someone the children already knew. There are a striking number of kids that are molested by people their parents know as in family friends or relatives. That also doesn’t mean that we should be paranoid and start doubting everyone who genuinely loves your children but it is best not to leave the kids alone with anyone for long time periods.

USE CCTV CAMERAS AND DEVELOP A CODE:

If you have to leave kids with someone such as a nanny or a house-help, install cameras both open and hidden. It will work as a prevention because the potential attacker will know he/she can be filmed which will prevent any assault. Develop a code word with your kids for such situations, ask your kids to remember a code word which they can use to inform about a certain person or a situation when they are around people and cannot tell openly.

TEACHING SELF DEFENCE:

Boys and girls in their early teens should be taught basic self-defense to prevent any bad situation. But the younger kids who are small and exposed cannot do much; teach them to run away or move away from the person they feel unsafe with and to scream for help if alone with that person.

We teach kids to stay away from electric objects to prevent shock, to never touch sharp objects like knives to prevent cuts but we forget to teach about body safety which is essential to prevent sexual assault. I would say all parents should take extra care of their children while growing up and build a type of relationship where kids can easily share anything with parents to prevent any type of future violence and harassment. Stay safe.

Asra

 

 

 

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THE ANTI-CAT BRIGADE IN EVERY CAT PERSON’S LIFE

THE ANTI-CAT BRIGADE IN EVERY CAT PERSON’S LIFE

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I absolutely adore doggos but prefer cats coz I usually don’t get enough time to walk the dogs which is important to keep them healthy. I have two four-year-old kitties named Coco (girl) and Bean (boy).For me, “The Anti Cat brigade” is basically anyone who hates cats or cat owners. In past four years since I got cats, I heard so many things over and over and always chose to be polite while ignoring stupid suggestions and mean questions.There is so much negative discussion about cats that I started wondering why do people have a problem with cats. I mean, isn’t it rude enough that ignorant people around us already refer to a woman who has cats as crazy? Have you ever heard of a crazy dog lady, crazy fish guy or crazy parrot lady? There are a number of things you probably have heard if you also have little furry friends. So here are the types of the anti-cat people.

The self-proclaimed doctor who is too concerned about your health:

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This person is really worried about your health and warns you about the dangers of cat fur every time you meet them. They are usually like “Oh, do you know you can get Asthma if you keep cats?” or “Hey I’m just worried about you, you will probably get an allergy or some skin disease if you keep letting your cats on your bed. Firstly, my cats are vaccinated and healthy; they are indoor cats so I’m not worried at all about getting any of the diseases mentioned above. Also, they are short hair cats and shed quite less, so I’m not getting asthma anytime soon.

The expert on cat psychology:

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These people will keep telling you that your cat doesn’t love you. They own you and you are just their slave. Well honey, I’m happy to be a slave of my cats if feeding them on time makes me one in your eyes. Cats are independent and moody animals but trust me they are super affectionate animals as well. Once I had to go out of town and left my cats with my parents who fed them on time, cleaned litter boxes and took good care of them but still when I came back, both my cats were sick. Every day for seven days, they kept sitting at the front door waiting for me. My parents told me that they came running to the door every time they heard a doorbell while I was away. It was obvious that they missed me. Just like dogs, they love you; they just don’t show it as a dog would.

The Person who don’t want you to go bankrupt:

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This guy’s biggest concern is your spending. Trust me, a lot of people ask me how much money I spend monthly on their food and litter, I never tell the right amount though (which is quite a lot) ;). I just ignore or try to change the topic but this question irritates me the most. They would also advise you about how much you can actually save if you get rid of cats. Arghhh

The scared one:

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There is one person in your family/friends who is super scared of cats. They won’t enter a room where your cat is chilling. They would ask you to remove the sleeping cat from the sofa because they want to sit there. The trouble with such people is that they start screaming on top of their lungs as soon as the cat comes near them. I mean, Hello!!! The kitty is just saying Hi to you. These people scare the poor cats with their screams.

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Fortunately, there are many cat lovers around us as well.I call them “The kitty clan” they are my favorite people, they love cats just like you do. Some of them have a cat and some just cannot keep them as pets because of different reasons. They usually are your cousins or friends who really like your cat. They would come and cuddle with your furry friends, snuggle with them, give them a lot of belly rubs, take tons of selfies with them and leave your house happy with a coating of cat hair all over their clothes. These people are the ones I want around me to fight back and scare away with the anti-cat brigade.

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Coco the queen

 

 

 

 

THE GOOD OLD DAYS OF DISNEY CHANNEL

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Are you a Disney fan? Have you watched all the movies and shows that use to be on Disney in early 2000’s? I was super obsessed with Disney channel and still remember practice drawing the Disney logo in the air just like the kids on Disney channel did during the commercial breaks. Out of so many shows on the channel, there were four I never ever missed. Come take a trip down the memory lane with me.

The Suite Life of Zack and Cody

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Zack and Cody Martin, the twin boys (Cole and Dylan Sprouse) were the cutest things on TV back in 2005.My favorite part of the show was Miss London Tipton 😉 Her shopping craze, funny style, and huge wardrobe was amazing. Brenda song did a great job of hilarious acting as London along with friend Maddie. And let’s not forget Mr. Moseby, that dude was witty and cute. All of the characters were shown living at Tipton hotel; I remember how much I loved watching this show. Later there was a sequel of the show called “The suite life on deck” where they all are living on a cruise ship instead of the hotel. It was equally funny.

 

Hannah Montana

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Back in the day, I was in love with Hannah Montana and watched every show on TV, even if I saw it already like 28 times.The theme song was so catchy and the show was hilarious and an entertainment for everyone. It was meant for kids and teens but I know many adults who use to watch it just like their younger brothers or sisters did. Every character in that show was awesome. I loved Rico, the arguments and fights between him and Jackson were hilarious. The friendship of Lilly and Miley made me want a friend who is that close to me as they were to each other. Miley Cyrus gained a pretty bad reputation some years back.The show recieved criticism and was even considered a bad influence on kids at a point because of her but the Miley I remember was a beautiful girl who was funny and always smiling in her character “Hannah Montana”.

Wizards of Waverly Place

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Selena Gomez (Alex Russo) is a famous singer now but I still remember her as the cute bubbly teenage girl who happened to know magic as well. I spent a lot of my afternoons watching this show and laughing at the crazy and funny situations these siblings ran into. This show was full of fun magical adventures of the Russo family who are wizards and own a sandwich shop as well.

 Cory in the house

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Started around 2007, Cory in the house was also a great show on Disney. It was about a boy named Cory who’s father worked at the white house as a head chef. He is the brother of Raven Baxter from “That’s so Raven”. Cory, Meena and the president’s daughter Sophie made this show so witty.

So these were a few of my favorite shows on Disney but there are so many others that I use to watch like “Lizzie McGuire” and “That’s so Raven”. So, after writing this post my plan for tonight is to binge watch my favorite episodes all of these shows. 😉 It is gonna be a great weekend for me.

Have a great weekend everyone. 🙂

 

ARE WE FORGETTING OUR ONCE FAVORITE GAMES?

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Remember waiting to harvest your crops and rushing to feed your animals in “Farmville” game you used to play on your Facebook? Now don’t tell me you did not play Farmville at least once in your life! A huge number of Facebook users played that game a while ago. Farmville by Zynga was the most played game on FB that kept people engaged and keep coming back on their social media to check on their crops in the game. Later Farmville2 was available for smartphones and it was as popular as Farmville. When it comes to Android gaming apps, there are a number of games that used to be on everyone’s phone and now mostly forgotten about. Every day there are more and more new apps pouring in with better graphics, lesser glitches, and great animations so people tend to get bored with a particular game and uninstall it but there is always something new in the market for them to download and play.

Here are a few games that were all the rage once and now they are not as popular as they used to be.

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Who doesn’t love angry birds? Those cute furry birds were so loved a while back and are still quite admired. There was a time when I used to keep killing those bad piggies by hitting them with my cute chubby birds all day long. Angrybirds series by Rovio was highly popular among kids and teens; it was a good way for spending your free time. There are a number of games in Angry birds series such as Angrybirds Rio, Angrybirds space etc. This game is not as popular these days as it was before.

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FarmVille 2 by Zynga came around in 2014 and it was available for smartphones. It also had the same features like planting and harvesting crops, feeding animals and other farm stuff. I got tired of it quite soon and uninstalled Farmville. It was entertaining but time-consuming so I thought it was enough farming for me and got rid of my farm 😦

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Candy crush by King was so popular that it became annoying after a while. Remember logging on to your Facebook and there are like 28 notifications informing you about candy crush requests. It is an addictive game where you match and swap similar candies to remove them from the board. It is a good puzzle game but became a headache so I deleted like many other people who loved it. Candy crush is also less popular now than it was a few years back.

TEMPLE RUN:

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Published by Imangi studios, Temple run was an exciting running game that people loved. We used to spend our extra time by running endlessly avoiding the obstacles and monster monkeys in the temple. It had pretty cool graphics which I loved. Unfortunately, like many other games, it started boring me and got deleted as well.

SUBWAY SURFERS:

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It is also a running game by Kiloo. It was played by a huge number of people including kids, teens and adults as well. In Subway surfers, a character has to run away from a cop, collect coins and avoid trains. It is highly entertaining in the beginning but boring after some time.

There are a number of people who still love and passionately play the games listed above.However,there is a decline in overall popularity and they are not as popular than they used to be.

There are new games and apps launching everyday but everything gets uninteresting after sometime. For example there is this new game called Ludostar which is highly popular in Pakistan .Mostly you will find users that are Indians, Pakistanis and Saudis. It is a plain old board game that is in almost every house in Pakistan but the phone version got so popular because it had a chat feature as well. You can talk to you opponent while playing. I think this feature is the reason why Ludostar is famous, people are using it more as a chat tool. As I said ,everything becomes unexciting after a while so let’s see how long this game will last.

ASRA

LIVING AS A FOREIGN STUDENT IN SWEDEN

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Studying abroad is something a lot of people dream of .It is a life time opportunity when you are able to study and quench your thirst for travel at the same time. It allows people to see new places, learn new languages and explore different cultures during their study period. There are many good universities in Sweden that offer degree programs for international students. Admission procedure is very simple; all you need is access to their admission website,find the course you are interested in,have  a good score in an English language proficiency test such as IELTS or TOEFL and an excellent academic record.

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Life far from home:

The experience can be life changing for many students as they get to meet different people from all over the world and learn new things. Living in Sweden is a beautiful and memorable experience. The stunning greenery everywhere soothes the tired eyes, very old but well kept brick buildings and churches keep the students admiring their architectural beauty. The food is awesome and the people are very polite and helpful. Living alone also give students a sense of freedom and responsibility. As far as the study is concerned, the student-teacher environment is very friendly is Sweden sometimes the teacher even asks people to call them using their names. No formalities are required which creates a friendly relation between them that later helps in communicating better.

Difficulties of studying abroad

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Apart from all the good aspects of living and studying abroad, the problems international students face cannot be ignored. Homesickness is the first problem that is seen among the new students. Leaving the home and family behind to study in a different country causes mental and emotional problems which effect Studies.My University had a doctor assigned particularly to do the counseling of students who are suffering from home sickness. They offer solutions and short breaks even during an ongoing semester if the student seems extremely disheartened.

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Most of the international students are usually from developing countries and living in Europe is too expensive for them. Most common problem is paying for the accommodation; even if it’s a dorm room it can cost a lot if you are from a developing country because of the difference in the value of currency. Food is not that expensive in Sweden but transport is very costly so many students work part time to improve their financial condition. Swedes usually ride bicycles to travel short distances and students do the same to avoid paying for buses and to keep the environment clean.

  1. Extreme weather 

Sweden is a cold Scandinavian country. Most of its cities are cold throughout the year, so if you can’t manage to travel and work in negative temperatures wearing ten layers of clothing you should not choose it as your destination.

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The problems people face during their study period are not that big if we look at the good things studying abroad offers us. I studied and lived there for three years and like every other student who went there, I can also say that it was the best time of my life. The culture, food, lifestyle and natural beauty is mesmerizing. People are nice and helpful, the food is delicious. You make a lot of new friends from different countries and this diversity in classroom is the most awesome part of studying abroad. Literacy rate of Sweden is 99% which is admirable because everyone has an equal right to study. Studying abroad is a great opportunity which more students should try and Sweden can be a good destination for this purpose. It changed me as a person, broadened my mind and taught me how to love and respect different cultures.

Asra